the universe is one being
 
In order to learn forgiveness
 man must learn tolerance first. And there
 are people whom man cannot forgive. It is not that he 
must not forgive, but it is difficult, beyond his power to forgive,
 and in that case the first thing he can do is to forget. The first step 
towards forgiveness is to forget. It is true that the finer the
 man is the more he is subject to be hurt by the smallest
 disturbance that can produce irritation and
 inharmony in the atmosphere.
 
A person who gives 
and takes hurts is capable of living
 an easy and comfortable life in the world. 
Life is difficult for the fine person, for he cannot 
give back what he receives in the way of hurt, and he can
 feel it more than the average person. Many seek protection from 
all hurting influences by building some wall around themselves. But 
the canopy over the earth is so high that a wall cannot be built high 
enough, and the only thing one can do is to live in the midst of 
all inharmonious influences, to strengthen his will power 
and to bear all things, yet keeping the fineness of 
character and a nobleness of manner together 
with an ever-living heart.
 
To become cold 
with the coldness of the world
 is weakness, and to become broken 
by the hardness of the world is feebleness, 
but to live in the world and yet to keep above the world
 is like walking on the water. There are two essential duties 
for the man of wisdom and love; that is to keep the love
 in our nature ever increasing and expanding and to
 strengthen the will so that the heart may not be
 easily broken. Balance is ideal in life; 
man must be fine and yet strong, 
man must be loving and
 yet powerful.
 
Hazrat Inayat Khan
the training of the ego